June 24, 2014

5 Fashion Tips Every Mom Should Know


Fashion Tips For Moms

Yes, I’m dispensing fashion advice. If you’re laughing, that’s fine. If you’re wondering what qualifies me to tell other people what to wear when I’m often seen in decidedly questionable fashions, I probably can’t give you any specific reasons sufficient to satisfy you. And by “decidedly questionable fashions”, that “questionable” is according to those who think they have the right to tell me that what I’m wearing is on some official “Do Not Wear” list.

See, here’s the deal. Recently, there was an article that listed the 5 Bad Fashion Mistakes Moms Need to Stop Making Right Now. For a minute I thought it was a joke or maybe written tongue-in-cheek. Except, as it was shared more and more I got the sense that it was supposed to real fashion advice. And while I agree that some clothing items are best when only worn while cleaning out the garage or painting the office, I feel that if other people can dispense their fashion advice then so can I.

5 Fashion Tips Every Mom Needs

1. Wear whatever makes you feel pretty – Seriously! If you like Crocs, wear them. If scrubs are your thing and you feel like a sexy-mama buy a pair for every day of the month. You think you can rock the short-shorts, the muu-muu, the mini, the maxi, the above the mid-calf? Then rock them like U2 rocks Wembley Stadium. If you never want to wear pants, or if you think skirts are the creation of the devil wear what makes you feel pretty. Confidence is sexy!

2. Other people’s opinions don’t matter – yes, I said it! If you feel great, why should that change because someone looks at you and gives you the side eye or says something snide or mean. Compliments are nice, but don’t dress for compliment. Sure, a compliment from your spouse or partner makes you feel good. But why give negativity any place in your mind. Lots of people aren’t going to like your choice but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It just means that it’s not their choice.

3. Judgement comes in all sizes, but it doesn’t fit anyone – so stop with the judgement. As moms we strive to teach our children to treat others with respect and kindness. We’re often quick to teach our kids not to judge others. So why should it be acceptable for us to judge other women’s choices of the clothing they wear. It may be funny to watch a video of questionably dressed “People of {insert super store}”, but the reality is that we don’t know their story. And what does it say about us if we’re judging other people?

4. A smile is one of the prettiest accessories ever – When you smile your eyes tend to sparkle. When you smile, your brain works really hard to match that smile with happy emotions. Sometimes we stare at the clothes in our closet knowing that nothing fits the way we wish it did. But we have to get dressed. And you know what? We do our best with what we have and that’s worth smiling about. Besides, your smile will draw attention away from those capri pants that supposedly make us all look dumpy. And smiling faces are so much more attractive than any clothes you’ll ever wear.

5. Stand up tall – even if you feel like you’d rather just shrink into the background. When you stand up tall you breathe better, your body gets what it needs and your mind is energized. Try it, I’ll wait. Stand up tall, shoulders back, chin up. Now, just for fun, get all hunchy, look at the ground, and drop your shoulders. Now back up here. Did you feel better when you stood up tall like you have some place important to go? It’s because you do have some place important – life, and wherever it takes you.

Mary J Blige Quote

There you have it. Real, true, and unsolicited fashion advice from someone who’s never been a fashionista. What I have been is a woman trying to find her way in a society obsessed with how we dress and judging us for our choices. What I am is a mom who did her best not to wear tops with spit-up on them when my daughter was an infant. What I am now is a 45-year-old woman still being told that despite buying my clothing at decent department stores and boutiques that how I dress isn’t right. You know what? How I dress is none of anyone else’s business but mine. If I’m happy and people can’t be happy with me and for me, then that’s not a ME problem, that’s a THEM problem.



Jeannine Bender June 24, 2014 at 9:30 am

Well put Sara. 🙂

Sara June 24, 2014 at 8:58 pm

Appreciate the kind words and smiley, Jeannine.

Audrey Van Petegem June 24, 2014 at 12:26 pm

Love it!!!

Sara June 24, 2014 at 8:58 pm

Thank you, Audrey.

Shifra June 24, 2014 at 8:50 pm


Megan June 24, 2014 at 8:51 pm

What a great article! It wasn’t what I was expecting but you really gave great advice that all Moms should consider. Thanks!

Sara June 24, 2014 at 8:56 pm

Megan, thank you. I’m glad you liked my article.

Lisa June 25, 2014 at 8:23 am

I think I need this spoken and recorded, and on a loop, so that when I’m standing in my closet cursing that nothing fits I can remember what truly matters. Fabulous post, Sara.

Kate @ Songs Kate Sang June 26, 2014 at 11:19 pm

I just LOVE this! 100% awesome advice.

Kelly June 27, 2014 at 2:46 pm

Well said Sara, I particularly like #3. Our kids pick up on our judgements (of others and of ourselves) and then they start exhibiting the same behaviors. I hate to see my daughter being critical of herself and I know she gets it all from me.

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