April 29, 2010

I Discovered The Secret to The Secret

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Act as if ……  Three simple, tiny, individually irrelevant words.  That when combined hold THE SECRET to The Secret.

Act As If

Yesterday, CycleGuy linked me to an article about the Harvard Women’s Basketball coach, Kathy Delaney-Smith.  The article was written by a woman, Melissa Johnson, who had been on Coach Delaney-Smith’s team in the late 1990s.  Ms. Johnson obviously has a great deal of respect for Coach Smith and what was taught not only on the basketball court.  There are a million and one stories relating stories of how sports can be a metaphor for learning about life.

This one was different, though.  Never mind that I’m about a year behind in reading it.  The important thing is I did read it.  And when I read it, I realized why I probably didn’t see it a year ago when it was originally published.  I was in a different place (that’s a completely different I’ll talk about some other time).  I probably would not have seen it had it been put right in front of me. I couldn’t believe in anything, much less myself.

Back in high school, I had a theater teacher that used the phrase ‘Fake It ‘Til You Make It‘ to get us non-theater people to break out and own our part.  I am not a thespian by any stretch of the imagination.  But I took theater because it looked like fun and, hey, they had a couch and bean bags in their classroom instead of regular chairs.  What can I say? I needed to break out of my geek shell and I thought this would help.  And, to some degree it did.  But for a smart kid, I sure had no concept of acting or timing or anything related to theater. So on that first day, the teacher introduced me to the words Fake It ‘Til You Make It.  The goal was to pretend we knew what we were doing. And pretend I did. Until I wasn’t pretending any more. I had made it!

I remembered those words and when I was in situations where I wasn’t sure, I’d pretend. In hindsight, I was embracing the mantra of Coach Delaney-Smith. Act As If.  It’s a phrase that is thrown around a lot, but I don’t think people realize its power.  We understand the phrase I’ll believe it when I see it, but what about this – I’ll see it when I believe it.  Believe.  Believing in myself.  Believing in my ability.  Believing in my success.  Believing in my child.  Believing. Believing. And more Believing.  And soon I will see it.  If you believe in something, it’s amazing how quickly you can see what you’re looking for.

Funny how I’ve never picked up that BabyGirl’s violin teacher would tell her to Act As If you are a professional violinist.  A few words to motivate and to help encourage. But I didn’t hear them.  I assure you, though, that BabyGirl has.

I’ve been out at restaurants and have heard parents tell children to Act As If you’ve been somewhere.  A small admonishment to a child to behave. But I’ve seen how powerful those few words can be when all of a sudden the child is the picture of good behavior. You probably have. Or maybe you’ve said it to your kids? Or can you hear your parents’ voices in your head as you read this?

But as an adult, I lost this. I lost track of the power to Act As If.  I think I know where I left it too. Rather, I think I know where I forgot to believe in myself and the power and strength that three little words can give.  I have retrieved them. I feel their strength. And I am starting to see it because I believe it.

Do you Act As If? If not, you should definitely try it!

Sara

{ 3 comments }

corrin April 29, 2010 at 3:32 pm

I used those three little words to sign off on a post about keeping your bad juju to yourself a few weeks ago. To a certain extent, I believe if you act happy, you’ll be happy. Pretend to have fun, and you’ll eventually have fun. It’s all in the same vein of thinking positive!

Sara April 29, 2010 at 5:42 pm

Hello Corrin! Thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. I really appreciate it. I strongly believe that we each have the power to create good energy. I’m so with you that people need to keep their bad juju to themselves.

Thank you, again, for stopping by!

Honey April 29, 2010 at 9:35 pm

I love those three little words. ACT AS IF. Thank you for the great post. It was really inspiring and I enjoyed reading it. Those words came at a really good time for me.

Blessings
Honey

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