August 8, 2011

Mamavation Monday: Decision Making and The Post-Mortem


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When faced with a decision there are times when I get paralyzed because I don’t want to make the wrong decision. Doing a post-mortem on the decision often doesn’t help either. Second guessing myself or my choice is often worse than making the decision. Isn’t it nice to have such clarity in hindsight?

It’s one thing to look back on a decision or choice to glean information on how to improve and do it better or different the next time. But I tend to look back and kick myself if the end result was not perfection. I set the bar so high, surpass it and think I should have set it higher.

We just have to make decisions when it comes to our health and well-being. No path is unchangeable. Eat a bag of chocolate? Make an effort not to do it again. Try all the snacks at Costco like they’re calorie-free nuggets of love? Be more mindful the next time. Skip breakfast (*looks at self in mirror*)? Figure out how to remedy that .

Very few decisions we make are ever setting us down a path we can’t change. We have the ability to change for the next time, or even in mid-stream. The whole reason for the post-mortem in business is to determine how to improve, not point fingers and sling blame (it does happen, but that’s not the point). In our personal lives, though, we do a lot more of the blaming.

There are so many ways we get stuck. Sometimes it’s not making a decision. When we’ve come to that proverbial fork in the road we panic. Then we finally do make a choice and we wonder if it was the right one. I’m hypercritical of everything I do. Sometimes that’s good, but for the most part it’s not.

We all make plenty of decisions every day. Some are better than others. But we have to (and I’m a guilty as the next gal) make the conscious choice not to beat ourselves up and second, third and fourth guess ourselves.





Monica Young August 8, 2011 at 2:54 pm

You are right, in our personal life we tend to blame a lot. Time to refocus. Thanks for this post.

Megan @mnmspecial August 8, 2011 at 5:04 pm

You are very right, we are so much harder on our selves then we need to be. We should strip back and find alternatives when we fall. Thanks for pointing this out.

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