April 25, 2011

Mamavation Monday: Doing It For Me


Another Monday. One more left before the calendar clicks over another year for me. I’m OK with being 40-something. I’m not OK with the changes that seemed to happen on 40 years and 1 day. It’s as if all of a sudden things changed.

Gone were the days of seeing near and far without a problem. Now I seem to be able to do only one of the two. All of a sudden my sleep pattern changed. I started to wonder if next I’ll be eating dinner at 3:30pm at the Denny’s. Gosh I hope not!

I’ve read more about fitness in the past month than I’ve probably read in the prior 40 years. Just trying to figure out how to stay focused and work all the things that make for a healthy lifestyle. Most of the sites I end up leaving after a few clicks because the pictures don’t seem very realistic.

Sure, I want to see the ‘before and after’. But there just appear to be A LOT more “afters”. I realize not everyone has a weight lost story. Not everyone has ballooned up an dropped it. Sometimes people haven’t struggled with weight issues since they were 12. But I want them to at least appear to be human.

When I lost my 76 pounds that got me to Weight Watchers Lifetime Membership, I did it for me. Not so I’d be more attractive to my husband. Not so I could be ‘a better Mom’. Not because I didn’t want to be ‘the fat one’ of the group. I did it FOR ME! Because I wanted to feel better.

And here I am, having put on 20 pounds over the last 4 years due to stress and poor eating habits and lack of motivation to exercise. I lost track of doing it for me. I was starting not to care. I’d already lost 76 pounds, one dessert or treat wouldn’t hurt. I wanted a treat. I wanted …. I wanted …..

I had stopped making good choice for myself. I felt like I needed to do them for other people. And then I got tired of doing it for other people because, well, they just don’t seem to care. And there it was.

I needed to care about ME again. Life gets so busy. I hear it all the time. Moms foregoing things for themselves so they can do for their kids, their husband, their job. Instead of saying ‘No’ we move ourselves down to make room for someone or something else. Workout from 2-3pm gets moved to “later” because that’s when the volunteer meeting is at. Instead of saying we’re already committed for that time we silently say “I am not important to myself”. And that’s probably the loudest silent we tend to hear!

My family supports me, I don’t have to worry about that. My husband is terrific and encourages me and won’t do anything to sabotage my effort. He gives up cookies because he doesn’t want to ask me to make his favorites because he doesn’t want to tempt me. He will have dessert out when he’s with friends instead of having ice cream in front of me. He makes me smoothies so I can sleep an extra 30-minutes. He bought me a fitness DVD so I can try a fun new program at home.

In the end, I do it for me! Except sometimes I forget and lose track of me.

Do you ever lose track of yourself? If so, how do you get yourself back on track. I’d love to hear from you and learn about how you make YOU a priority.

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Whitney April 25, 2011 at 5:51 am

Wow – I could have written this article this morning. I got on the scale for Monday morning weigh in (gotta totally re-think this Monday decision thing…maybe a Tuesday weigh in would be less depressing) and BLAM! I got hit with an extra two pounds that cropped up from just the weekend! And that is in addition to the ones that had already found their way back to my belly!

I too, have lost weight through Weight Watchers. I lost 25 pounds in 2005 and must have enjoyed it so much that I put 15 back on so I could just lose it again in 2010. I honestly don’t know what has been happening lately though. I’m not as busy with kids as I used to be – so maybe I’m just eating from boredom. Whatever it is, it stops TODAY. I’m not going to give up all my hard work for a cupcake or chocolate (mmmm….chocolate….). I just wish it came OFF as quickly as it went ON.

Good luck to you!

Robyn | Add a Pinch April 25, 2011 at 8:24 am

I totally know what you mean, Sara. I am cheering you on and joining in right there with ya!

Good luck!

Beth April 25, 2011 at 8:59 am

You are so right you have to do it for you. The days that I don’t do stuff for me are the days I slack and then those add up and add up and add up. When the days add up so do the pounds.

Maybe a sticky note on the mirror or something would help you remember it is for you not anyone else? This is something I struggle with too and am just working to get back on path with it all.

homemom3 April 25, 2011 at 11:01 am

I wrote about this very thing this morning for my Mamavation post. Yes, I decided to do all this for me, it is my fun goal I made. Sure along the way the family decides to join in or not join in but I won’t give up and I am not quitting. I tried this before, during a bad time in my life and I was trying to please someone else and it ended up falling flat and I gained even more weight than I had lost. This time it is me because I know it is the one person I have to do it for and it is only for me. Yes, I have a support system too. It sounds like you have a very wonderful husband.

I haven’t tried weight watchers yet, maybe I should. I started this year and lost 25lbs using Lean Cuisine meals and exercise. Now Im’ just stuck at my current weight with a little nudge here and there. I wish you a ton of luck. Can’t wait to see your post next week.

Carrie@FamilyFitnessFood.com April 26, 2011 at 6:22 am

You are important! I like the sticky note idea. You can do this. I’m with you on the turning 40 changes (my bday is in 4 months). It’s just a number.

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