September 26, 2011

Mamavation Monday: Food Rewards


As a child, good behavior usually meant being rewarded with food. It created a strange relationship with food. I knew food was everyday sustenance. But I was also learning that if you achieved something, had a great day, pushed through something hard to finally accomplish it then there would be some type of food at the end. Usually, it was sweets or some type of ‘treat’.

I’ve had an odd relationship with food since childhood. It is not my friend. I like good food, don’t get me wrong. I like sweets and savory foods. Bitter and salty too. A lot of foods don’t like me. But I keep trying new and different ones.

Food is so much a part of our culture – from birth to death, nearly every event is punctuated with food. Good day – celebrate with food. Bad day – drown it with food. Bored – nibble away. Excited … you get the picture!

The problem is that most of these events don’t include ‘healthy’ food. It doesn’t have to be a rabbit food fest, but I’m often left looking for healthy alternatives. I understand that it’s not everyone else’s responsibility to provide ‘good’ for me food, it’s my responsibility to make good choices. But some times it’s so hard when every event is punctuated with food. Tempting sweets, dips, chips and oh so delicious morsels.

There have been times when I’ve conquered the food demons and have walked away feeling like I’m winning. Although, just as food may have a tight grasp in the hand-to-mouth process there are times when I feel like I had the upper hand, yet I still don’t feel in control.

I’ve always wanted to be one of those people who saw food for what it was, nourishment and sustenance. I want to embrace what one of my Weight Watchers leaders said years ago – nothing tastes as good as the first bite. It’s often really true. We just want that one bite, but can’t stop. I know that’s true for me some time.

The relationship with food is something we learn. That mean we can also unlearn the unhealthy part. Unlearing is sooooo hard! It takes something like 23 bazillion times longer to unlearn a habit. I think I’m about a tenth of the way there on some things. I’ll keep plugging away, though. Maybe it’s an exponential thing and one day it’ll all fall in to place. Until then, I’m like Dory in Finding Nemo and I’ll just keep swimming!

What is your relationship with food? Do you feel that food sometimes just looks at you and mocks you? (or is it just me it’s mocking?)

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colleen September 26, 2011 at 9:03 am

nope it mocks me too. I had learned that cravings will go away after a couple days of avoidance…and they tend to do that. It is getting past those couple days where they just chant my name. Then like you said, going to other places where the food is plentiful, it is hard to resist.

Marie Nichols September 26, 2011 at 9:42 am

Nope it mocks me too. I hate it the most when i having a really bad and all i want to do is give in and prove that it’s right. Food is so tempting at those times. But then i fight it harder and walk away.. Though wish i can say it gets better with food. it doesn’t and you know you just have to keep fighting. Keep it up. have a great week! 🙂

Jenn of September 26, 2011 at 9:58 am

Comfort food is totally terrorizing me lately. I have been down with an injury and pain sends me to comfort with food. I have not eaten this bad in years and I hate it! Nice to “meet” you. I can’t believe that I have not crossed your path here or on Twitter before. Anyway, you are not along with the food thing. I’ll just keep swimming along with you!

Katrina - @craftsbykatie September 26, 2011 at 10:37 am

I think so much of us are in that Just Keep Swimming boat when it comes to food. My birthday was on Friday and some great friends threw me a party. Sadly, the party food consisted of pizza and cake. It was hard but I tried to eat just enough to not be hungry anymore. Just keep swimming and remember we’re swimming right along side you!

pauline September 26, 2011 at 10:37 am

my relationship with food is messed up. always has been and probably always will be. i have an eating disordered past and it still is a factor in every day life. all i can do is do my best to create a healthy(er) example for my daughter.

Laura September 26, 2011 at 11:09 am

I’m totally with you on the food being a part of EVERYTHING! Ugh! It seems to constantly be mocking me too. You’re doing the right things to avoid some of the crap, keep it up and have a great week!

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