September 12, 2011

Mamavation Monday: Slowing Down

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For the past few months, I feel like I’ve been on a treadmill that has slowly started getting faster and faster to the point where I feel like I can’t keep up. I’m not a runner, but when it comes to taking care of myself, my family and my businesses I’m at a full on sprint. Yet the finish line is no where in sight. I’m running a marathon at a 50-yard dash pace. And I need to slow down.

Problem is, I’m not a slow down kinda person. Although, I guess I will be when something happens because I won’t slow down. Also, well, I don’t know how to slow down. I’ve been going all my life. Even on vacation I get agitated just ‘being’. Ask CycleGuy and he’ll even tell you that long before the interent and social media I was a go-go-go type of person.

I am realizing now that I can’t keep doing this. I’m not enjoying my life. It’s all work. And I hear everyone else out playing. I feel like a balloon that’s been blow up to either the point of breaking or, hopefully, being let go to fly around the room like to be left limp and exhausted wherever it happens to land.

In talking to my homeopath last week she looked at me with a stern look, straight into my eyes and told me I need to stop. That I’m not helping myself by feeling I need to be all things to all people. And while I consciously know this, my irrational unconscious self talks smack to me all the time.

So, what to do? Well, slowing down the treadmill should be the logical decision. But all the ‘what if’ scenarios start to play out. What if I don’t return emails within 73 nanoseconds will I been seen as a slacker or unresponsive? What if I give realistic timelines rather than just figuring I’ll stay up until 2am doing work to get it out sooner, will I lose clients? What if? What if?

I know that taking time for myself is important. I encourage others to do it. I, sometimes, even find time to do it myself. I say no to projects, I try to be present. But even with all that, the treadmill seems to be on cruise control well above my set speed limit.

I guess it wont’ matter ‘What if’ if I keep up this pace. But how can I slow down without being a disappointment or failure?

Sara

{ 14 comments }

@JustHeather September 12, 2011 at 12:45 pm

You just have to remember that who you are to all those other people isn’t what really matters. I had this issue earlier this year when I decided to shut off the computer on weekends. No, I don’t return emails right away (or sometimes at all), but I’m there for my kids and able to give 100% when I do sit down to work.

Sara September 13, 2011 at 10:45 pm

Heather, thank you for sharing with me how you’ve made the change to create a better balance. I know it’s possible, and I appreciate your support.

Julie @Dutchbeingme September 12, 2011 at 1:20 pm

I think it’s great that you are seeing that you need to slow down – but I struggle with the same thing… the disappointment if I don’t fulfill the duties that everyone expects of me. I hope that you can find a happy medium in all of this.

Sara September 13, 2011 at 10:48 pm

Hello Julie! Why are we so hard on ourselves? I think you’re fab and I know you can definitely find that happy medium too! Thank you for sharing and being a great cheerleader! Happy Birth Month!!

Amber Cleveland September 12, 2011 at 1:21 pm

It sounds cliche, but you have to prioritize and balance. Decide that you will slow down for 1 day and see what happens…the world will not stop. Then try to slow down 1 more day…you don’t have to stop, but do what makes sense for you and your family. It’s hard for all of us, especially as smart phones, iPads and computers are so portable that we CAN work from anywhere…it definitely doesn’t mean that we should. I’ve been fighting that battle as a solopreneur and trying to remember that I’ve got to be careful about not doing too much that isn’t lucrative.

Sara September 13, 2011 at 11:35 pm

Amber,
Thank you for coming to my blog and leaving such a supportive comment. You must know how I feel, because being a Solopreneur can be rough when it comes to time management. Setting expectations with clients can be tough. And I’ve always thought that technology is great but it’s making us overly connected at times.

Sara

Laura September 12, 2011 at 1:30 pm

If you keep running a marathon on 50-yard dash pace, I’m afraid you’re going to bite it and bite it hard. And that’s the last thing you want.
You can still finish the race, but you just need to take a breather for a mile or two. You’re still gonna finish but you just have to be a little more like the tortoise than the hare.
Hope you have a great week and get things figured out soon. <3

Sara September 13, 2011 at 11:36 pm

Laura, thanks for the encouragement! Sometimes it takes someone telling us we’re going to crash and burn (hard!) to actually understand.

Sara

Carrie September 12, 2011 at 3:59 pm

i just finished reading a book called 168 hours (recommended by gwen bell in the unplugging session at BlogHer ’11) and it has tons of great suggestions on how to spend less of your time on the stuff that isn’t meaningful to you and more of your time on stuff that is so that you can feel more fulfilled and less rushed. i think you’d love the book.

Sara September 14, 2011 at 9:45 am

Hi Carrie, I meant to reply sooner but I clicked away to see if 168 Hours came on audio book. And as I was reading the info it dawned on me that getting the book on audio would be quite the opposite of what the author was trying to accomplish. It does come on Kindle though.

Thank you for sharing this with me. I really trust your recommendation!

Sara

Shannon (Aries_Mommy) September 12, 2011 at 4:19 pm

There is nothing wrong with slowing down and finding the right balance in your life. No one wants to wear themselves too thin. I hope that you find the balance that you are looking for. Good luck this week.

Sara September 13, 2011 at 11:57 pm

Thanks, Shannon!

Grady Pruitt September 13, 2011 at 8:03 am

Balance is very important! I was just reading a post on this a few minutes ago:

Without balance, you can’t really enjoy life. Be sure to take some time for yourself.

Sara September 13, 2011 at 11:58 pm

Thanks for the visit and the link Grady. Appreciate the support and encouragement too!

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