Pity Party

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Have you ever been down in the dumps and just felt like staying there? You feel that things aren’t working out how they’re supposed to. People letting you down. Just feeling yucky. Feeling sorry for yourself.

Have you ever just wanted to throw yourself a pity party? I have! And when I’m feeling like that it’s not really a time to laugh and step back to gain perspective. In the moment I just want to curl up in the corner and cry and rock back and forth watching Rain Man. Maybe not Rain Man (even though it’s one of my all-time favorite movies) but you get the idea.

While the phrase ‘pity party’ is often said in jest, really we should embrace it. And really throw a party! Invite our friends, tell them how crappy we feel and then laugh at it. Obviously, I’m not talking about laughing at real tragedy. I’m talking about stepping out of ourselves for a few moments to look at us as a third person. Really look at whether we’re just feeling sorry for ourselves or if there is something wrong that we can fix or that by talking to our friends they can shed light on the situation. Which is why having our friends over is key.

And friends over plus laughter (and a few cocktails) often equals a great time. Just what we need to get us out of the dumps!

Next time you’re feeling down and sorry for yourself and think you should have a pity party, do just that! Call up a few friends and invite them over or find a place to meet. They will appreciate the time to unload and it will get everyone engaging and laughing and crying and experiencing a whole host of emotions. Emotions that can kick the negativity out and allow us to get back to feeling like we can take on the world!

Do you think your friends would find it refreshing or odd if you called them up to invite them to a pity party?


Author: Sara

Sara is a life-long dreamer, creating a list of things she wants to do "someday". Realizing there is no "someday" on the calendar she's taking the steps to make her somedays a reality. Between saving for retirement and college and paying for all the usual things, many women find that they're often putting their hopes and dreams on hold. Saving For Someday is Sara's way of encouraging women everywhere to find ways to save on the ordinary so they can do the extraordinary. Sara is also a licensed attorney and writes about legal issues affecting bloggers, content creators and online professionals. This blog is for informational purposes only. You can also find me on Google+

7 thoughts on “Pity Party”

    1. Hi Kate,

      You bring the chocolate, Sara will bring the wine. And I’m sure we can get Valerie to bring something that is The Awesome of Gluten Free Awesomeness!


  1. Um, you were my pity party host (and I mean that in a good way) at Blogher. I heart you. And I would come to your party if you had one, I’ll bring the wine!

    1. Sara, friends don’t let friends pity party alone! I big puffy heart you!

      Sara (and no, just incase you’re wondering I’m not replying to myself!)

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