Have you ever been down in the dumps and just felt like staying there? You feel that things aren’t working out how they’re supposed to. People letting you down. Just feeling yucky. Feeling sorry for yourself.
Have you ever just wanted to throw yourself a pity party? I have! And when I’m feeling like that it’s not really a time to laugh and step back to gain perspective. In the moment I just want to curl up in the corner and cry and rock back and forth watching Rain Man. Maybe not Rain Man (even though it’s one of my all-time favorite movies) but you get the idea.
While the phrase ‘pity party’ is often said in jest, really we should embrace it. And really throw a party! Invite our friends, tell them how crappy we feel and then laugh at it. Obviously, I’m not talking about laughing at real tragedy. I’m talking about stepping out of ourselves for a few moments to look at us as a third person. Really look at whether we’re just feeling sorry for ourselves or if there is something wrong that we can fix or that by talking to our friends they can shed light on the situation. Which is why having our friends over is key.
And friends over plus laughter (and a few cocktails) often equals a great time. Just what we need to get us out of the dumps!
Next time you’re feeling down and sorry for yourself and think you should have a pity party, do just that! Call up a few friends and invite them over or find a place to meet. They will appreciate the time to unload and it will get everyone engaging and laughing and crying and experiencing a whole host of emotions. Emotions that can kick the negativity out and allow us to get back to feeling like we can take on the world!
Do you think your friends would find it refreshing or odd if you called them up to invite them to a pity party?