December 30, 2010

Reflecting on 2010: Part 4 – Action for 2011


Pure Joy
photo credit: terrabellastudios

It’s all fine and dandy to reflect on events of the past year and look at those things that brought us joy as well as those things that are not our shining moments. How else can we take stock in our lives? But what to do with all this information we’ve gathered?

Just to review:

We’ve identified all the hats we wore, all the roles we played in 2010.

We’ve assessed all the Roses we’ve happily been given and have seen all the great things in 2010.

And yesterday, we tackled the difficulty of identifying the Thorns undoubtedly been stuck with as we’ve acknowledged the difficulties faced in 2010.

But what good is all this if we file it away and do nothing with it? How can 2011 be a better year if we don’t learn where we need to make changes in ourselves, our lives, our dealings with others?

So, yes, there is a Part 4. This is the step where we look over these Roses and Thorns as well as all the hats we’ve worn. This is the step when we determine which of these things will come forward with us into the new year. There are some relationships, both personal and professional, that I won’t be taking into 2011. I’ve decided that the roses I get from these relationships have too many and too large thorns and I’m tired of getting hurt. I had questions about continuing these relationships but I’d never stepped back to really see what I get from them. And while relationships are both a give and take, if we feel dragged down by it then it’s probably a good idea to assess whether it’s worth it.

Today I had a late breakfast with my friend Shannon (she’s @EpicSkin on Twitter and she’s super nice and is an expert on skincare and all things beauty!) and we got to talking about those people in our lives that rarely give but always take. It wasn’t a bashing session or anything like that. It was one of those conversations where we both recognized that there are people who inject themselves into our lives not to bring joy and light but to try and squash our happiness. It doesn’t matter if it’s intentional or not, the fact is we don’t need people in our lives who are going to bring us down.

Same thing, we don’t need commitments in our lives that we can’t muster a smile when we think of it. The things we do should multiply the joy, love, excitement, fun and all that good stuff we seek. Of course, no everything will be all rosey (sorry for the pun!). But we don’t have to agree to things that we can’t do with love. Sure, some things we have to do out of obligation. But if you hate doing it, hate the person, hate the reason, or filled with negativity then definitely reconsider why it’s part of your life.

Take a look at that very long list you created. Look it over closely for a few days. Make notes, mental or in writing. What do you want to change? What do you want to do again?

2011 will be here in less than 48 hours, whether we want it to be or not. We’re in a position to truly make it a universal Year of Awesome. So join me in my Year of Awesome, there’s plenty of room!



erin margolin December 30, 2010 at 10:37 am


Very important post here. And I need to leave some things/people behind as we begin 2011, too. Excess baggage and thorns are no fun. Really loved reading this and you have such keen insights!

Wisconsin Mommy January 1, 2011 at 4:46 pm

I can totally relate to what you were talking about with the people who take but don’t give. I spent 2010 clearing some of those kind of people out of my life. I have to say – I don’t miss them much and have found that there’s much less drama in my world as well!

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