June 9, 2010

She Signed the Card Mom


I really love my mother in law. Really, I do. For over 20 years now though I continue to be surprised by her cards. This one is for CycleGuy’s birthday. Her own son will be celebrating his birthday this coming weekend and this is his card from his own mother.  Look closely at the lower right corner for the highly personal and loving message. [yes, I’m being sarcastic!]

I think this is weird. She signs the card, ‘Mom’. Nothing more. No ‘Love’, no ‘Happy Birthday’. Nothing. I find this odd. It’s not new for Mama-San, but after all these years I still have not come to terms with her not adding a personal message.

Maybe I’m the weird one? When I write out cards I tend to be a touch verbose, writing what I feel about the person and the event. Mama-San, not so much.

I don’t think there is a particular etiquette for what to write on a card. But if there was, I’d suspect that a card from your mom should be signed with more than just ‘Mom’.

What do you think? Should a card be signed with more? Or is this enough?



TracyC June 9, 2010 at 9:48 am

From a mother to a son-definately should have a message. Same goes for a relative or close friend of any kind. The exception is holiday cards…those are lucky if they actually get signed and not just the printed photo card!

Cherees June 9, 2010 at 11:28 am

Some people feel that the card says enough. I know when I don’t know how to say something sometimes a card will say it for me.
I would have thought she would say Love you, Mom but the card does say Love. So to her she said enough and just wanted to make sure he knew it was from Mom.

Sara June 9, 2010 at 3:42 pm

I’ve had people tell me this too. A friend, years ago, said that he too only signed cards with his name unless he needed to add something to what was already said. I see both sides, but I’m with Tracy in that it’s CycleGuy’s mom and she could have said something special.

I suggested CycleGuy give it back to MamaSan so she can recycle it for Uncle Coach’s birthday. You know, recycle-style?

Kim P. June 9, 2010 at 5:00 pm

Sara, I’m with you on this one. I spend much time thinking about the person I’m sending the card to; writing a message, letting people know that I care enough about them to say more than just what the card says. I want them to know that they matter to me. I have to be careful not to expect the same back because my feelings are then hurt. I realized that I’m just that kinda person; a warm and fuzzy kind, who think letting you know you matter is important. I guess, I really wouldn’t want them to fake it…I’m genuine!

Star Forbis June 9, 2010 at 6:00 pm

lol. My Mother in Law is the same way. On cards to me, her son or her Grandkids! I don’t get it either.

Sara June 9, 2010 at 6:29 pm

Hi Star,

Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experience. Maybe it’s just how some people were raised? Or maybe it’s a regional things? My Mother in Law also signs her cards to BabyGirl just ‘Grandma’ and I’m so torn as to whether I should save them for BabyGirl. Right now I do b/c I just save them all. But I’m sure I’ll run out of room and be the bad mother and throw them away. Or not.


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