September 11, 2012

Things Change


Monarch Butterfly Image

As we settle in to the school year, I’m amazed at how much life has changed in the last 9 years. I look back at photos of BabyGirl and it’s hard to recall what life was like when she was a baby. Not that I’ve actually forgotten. More that life now is so different that it’s hard to think there was so much stress over things like what to feed her, is she hot or cold or hungry and how to keep her entertained for hours on end.

I shop for her clothes and they all seem so grown up. Gone are the cute tiny dresses and sweet outfits. No longer can I decide what she wears. She’s her own outfit picker-outer. And for the most part she does a great job. Sure there are days when dad sends her back to her room to re-examine her choice. It’s her own sense of style though, and I have to remind myself that this is what I was dreaming of while BabyGirl was still in diapers.

I look at my life and how it’s change from being a new mom to, well, still experiencing it all for the first time. There have been amazing experiences and one that I wish never happened. I’m friends with some of the same people as well as new ones. And there are people who are no longer part of my life by choice. That’s always a challenge, but just part of growth and change.

There are some constants though. I live in the same house I’ve lived in since 1997. It’s the longest I’ve ever lived in one place. Part of me loves it and yet there is a small part of me that wants to move because it would seem “normal”. And, of course, CycleGuy is still my main man. Going on 19 years of marriage, looking ahead to the next 50 years!

Life is about change. Stagnation does no one any good. In politics they talk about change. Motivational speakers preach change and creating it. Kids preface sentence after sentence with “When I grow up, ….”. And so do many adults. Change is good. Mostly. And when change doesn’t seem like the change you were seeking, it’s interesting how, in hindsight, it was often the catalyst for phenomenal growth.

I like change, but I also like routine and predictability. As a busy woman it’s the sameness and “non-change” that keeps the daysPompeii Italy flowing into weeks and the weeks into months. But like the chariots that forged tracks into hardened rock in Pompeii, doing the same thing over and over again isn’t good either. That rut, both literally and figuratively, can often be the reason for creating a new path. A well-worn path can lead you to the mountain top, but when too worn poses risks that can hamper even the most skilled.

Should we embrace every change? I don’t think so. Change happens. But there’s nothing to say that we have to go with it on an uncontrolled path like a piece of paper flying in the wind. We have control. We can take charge. We can create the change. Change doesn’t have to be left to happenstance or for others to push upon us. We have the ability to change ourselves and adapt or to continue to keep changing our world.

That’s likely where some get paralyzed by change. I know there are times I do. Times when someone else is creating the change without me being an active participant. Change is good. You can purposefully jolt yourself out of a rut and start on a new path, you can wait until someone comes along and forces you to change, or you can just wait until nature makes you change.

Eleven years ago today, September 11, 2001, life for so many of us changed. For my generation it was another defining moment.  Today we’ll talk a lot about how life has changed. Can we find the good in that change? Can we find good in the changes that happen in our lives that we don’t necessarily want?

Dealing with change isn’t always easy. Teaching my daughter how to work through change is constant. Earlier this year I stood among the ruins of an ancient civilization, thankful for many of the changes they made. In walking upon centuries-old roads and photographing ruins, I knew that back then change was just as scary as it is now. But there I was, in 2012, beholding the beauty of change.



Kate@Songs Kate Sang September 11, 2012 at 3:21 pm

Beautiful article! That butterfly picture is absolutely stunning

Sara September 11, 2012 at 11:31 pm

Thank you for the compliment both on my article and my photo, Kate.

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