There have been a few people tell me that I shouldn’t talk in terms of ‘someday’. That I should have a more measurable time period. Yah, that’s nice and all, but the reality of it is that I, as well as many others, say that we’ll do something someday. That ambiguous time in the future known not as today or tomorrow or next week or next month or even five years from now, but as the elusive someday.
Experts talk about being concrete and measurable when setting goals. ‘Someday’ surely does not make the cut as either concrete or measurable. So why ‘someday’? Why not something more concrete and measurable?
Well, the truth is that sometimes we want to be vague so that we don’t really have to commit to doing something. It’s the fine art of procrastination. And someday is its mistress.
Someday is a moving target that can only be defined in the same way obscenity is defined by the courts. I’ll know it when I see it! That’s pretty vague, isn’t it? I’ll know it when I see it. Talk about commitment phobic!
I come from a family of doers. My grandparents planned extensive trips, not for someday, but for set times. Retirement wasn’t some day in the future. Both my grandmother and grandfather knew when they were going to retire. They planned it and discussed it and because my grandfather was ‘detail oriented’ he had it written down. And I wonder why I write all this stuff down? Hmmm.
When I would talk about going to college it was never a vague discussion, it was always very concrete as to when I would start and how long it would take. There was grad school to be had, so everything was planned with concrete and measurable objectives. Achievement was not subjective.
And so I’ve been thinking about all these ‘somedays’ I have. Not so much a bucket list but rather an extensive personal guidebook of things I want to do. Things I’ve not already done because I have allowed the elusive ‘someday’ to get in the way of me actually doing it.
It’s not as simple as writing out a date next to something to make your goal concrete. You want it to be achievable. Why set yourself up for failure. Sure you may want to take a fabulous vacation. But why attach December 31, 2011 as a randomly selected date when you know it’s not possible. Better to be realistic but further out into the future. Better to create the opportunity to succeed!
It’s going to take me awhile to put this into action. It’s a different way of thinking. Rather than just keep adding to a list of things I’ll get to eventually, taking a few things and purposefully working toward them will bring about the success and motivation to keep working toward those very big somedays.
What does your someday look like? Do you create dates or measurable criteria? I’d love to know how you figure out when your someday will actually be.